Naturally, these situations haven't happened in your relationship but if
they happened to you What would you do?
When you are right! And your partner is wrong -again!
When you are weary of saying,"Yes, dear."
When your partner's father, sister, or cousin is the most annoying
person in the world.
When your partner's proposal is not romantic enough. Can you
plead for a do-over?
When you want wedding accessories or bridal jewelry to ensure
you have the perfect wedding day.
Essay: In a relationship, the words "right" and "wrong"
are not nearly
as important as "listening" and "compromise". Though
I of course have
never been flat out "wrong" *wink* there have been numerous times
I have been less "right" than my partner.
It is absolutely imperative to remember that you and your partner may
have differing views and opinions on a variety of topics and viewing
these differences as refreshing opportunities for growth is much healthier
than constantly vying for the winning answer. Try to put your ego
away, listen to what he/she has to say on a topic and then share your own
opinion in a calm and articulate manner. Oftentimes you will find that
"right" is somewhere in the middle of where you both originally
on the issue.
When feeling weary of saying, "yes dear," take
a deep breath, think
about what you really want to say, and pick something engaging that will
push you conversation into an interesting direction. For example, you
husband asks you to iron his shirt, your typical response would be "yes
dear," but instead try saying, "Honey, won't you look marvelous
crisp dress shirt! Is there something exciting going on at work
today?" This gives him an opportunity to share with you and shows
have an active interest in his daily activities. Men love ego stroking!
No matter how annoying your husband's family member may be, you have
remember that as much as you would expect love and support from your
spouse, his other relatives should be able to expect the same. It is
unkind to attack or complain about the people he has been raised with
has been taught to defend and protect. Simply bite your tongue, put on
a smile and remember that while you may love to complain about your
nagging mother, if someone else criticized her, you'd be the first to
to her defense. Family is about tolerance and camaraderie and if you
want a truly happy marriage, you must embrace his family as your own.
As the saying goes, "all the world is a stage," however in
real life we
cannot script even our most anticipated moments. No matter how he
plays it off, chances are your guy sweated over how to propose to you.
Sure, it may not have been perfect, rose petals may not have fallen from
the ceiling and poetry may not have spewed from his lips, but he did the
best he could. Try to play up the positive attributes of the proposal
in hopes that he grows into a romantic husband. Criticizing his
attempt will only make him feel insecure. Instead try planning an
ultra-romantic wedding where we can learn by example from the pro, you!
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Kris Bigalk, Minnesota,
* When you are right! And your partner is wrong -again! I would ask myself
it was so important to me to be right all of the time, and why I was focusing
much on competing with my spouse instead of just enjoying who he was as
person. As a possible solution, I would try to focus our conversations
right/wrong kinds of issues, but on subjects we agree on and can work
on without competing or feeling that we need to be right or wrong.
* When you are weary of saying,"Yes, dear." I would ask myself
why I wasn't
taking more of an initiative in the relationship. A person who is saying
is the kind of person who is either welcoming or allowing someone else
all the decisions and do all of the thinking, which isn't fair to either
I would definitely sit down with that person and discuss how we could
decision-making, chores, or whatever the issues are to be more fair to
* When your partner's father, sister, or cousin is the most annoying person
the world. Annoying is in the eye of the beholder, so I would try to figure
out what it
was about this person that I couldn't tolerate, and why I had such a problem
Most behaviors, unless abusive, can be overlooked when they occur in the
your spouse loves. My family isn't perfect either, but I appreciate it
that my fiance
interacts with everyone and tries to forge close relationships with the
* When your partner's proposal is not romantic enough. Can you plead
; do-over? If the proposal wasn't to your liking, don't accept it. There's
guarantee of a do-over, but at least you won't be bringing up the lackluster
proposal for the next 50 years of your marriage. I think that the proposal
even if it's just a simple, "Marry me?" over a cup of coffee,
is romantic enough if
you're with the right person.
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Kelly Hosking, Florida,
Essay: 1. When I am right and my partner is wrong (again) I simply stay
calm and try to explain my side of the situation. He doesn't always
understand, but if I've done a good job in expressing the way I feel,
then sometimes I'll just let it go so he can think he's right.
2. I don't really say "yes, dear". I am opinionated and he
We're both kind of that way and I think that's why we're with each
other. He knows I can stand up for myself and vice versa which why I think
we love each other so much.
3. When there's an annoying relative, I just deal with it. I don't
want to marry them, I want to marry him. I always grin and bear it.
4. I would never plead for a do-over. Just because I didn't think the
proposal was romantic enough doesn't mean he didn't think so. If it was
the best he could do and put everything he had into it, then who can
ask for more?
5. Shop, shop, shop! I want to look fabulous on my wedding day. I
would definitely find exactly what I wanted to wear before making any
decisions on accessories.
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